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How many times have we heard, 'you can have anything you want' or 'the world is yours' or 'you kids have it so easy'... and how often do you feel like if that is how life is supposed to be then you just aren't cutting it. It may be true to some degree. From certain corners of the intersection, we may have things pretty easy. Most of us were afforded the luxury of attending college if we wanted to (it probably wasn't presented as much of an option- but getting out of the house sure sounded like a dream come true). Some of us got our first car at sixteen. Some of us weren't forced to work odd early jobs, in order to focus on our school work. Many of us were even supported in our hobbies and all of the expenses that go along with it. From a mere financial perspective, most of us had an easier time than our folks did.
The idea that you can have everything you want likely didn't come with a how-to guide or a customer service line. In fact, instead what there seems to be is a thousand people willing to offer what worked for them followed by many confused faces when we don't seem to want to do what they say, usually having something to do with the year 1984 and not 2015. Hopefully, it's moved past the sound of slamming doors and hollering, 'you just don't understand me' down the hall. If this is a distant memory, tell yourself congratulations for making it out of your parents house. If you just yelled it before stumbling on this site, take a deep breath and keep reading. The point is this. From a financial standpoint, maybe. From an options standpoint, maybe. (Quick note: It's less likely that we will make more money than our parents did as an individual. We may generate more income as part of a two income home than our household we grew up in IF mom stayed at home.) The language of finances doesn't translate to the language of emotional support, care, or LOVE. Yet, because our folks grew up with less money at their disposal than we did the offering up of money (buying another pair of the super cool pants we just had to have as a high schooler) has taken the place of a great deal of emotional connection. An emotional connection is likely where we find the space to feel like we are cutting it. Without it is where we find the space to feel as if we aren't. If you use food to medicate your emotions the next step is typically a mad dash to prove we can have anything we want (ben & jerry's, giant bowl of pasta) or we decide we aren't worth it, don't deserve it and decide to starve. Sound like a familiar pattern? |
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